I am a single gal. I go from being okay to not being okay with it.
Throughout my single years, I have heard a lot of insensitive and thoughtless, well, for lack of a better word, crap. (Sorry, I’m a farm-girl.) It’s usually the well-intentioned people who make me the most neurotic.
I quite like the blame-the-victim-mentality. “Maybe you’re being too picky?” I have dated some jerks in my time, and for whatever crazy and inane reason, have wanted to date jerks. I should probably be more “picky”.
And, then there’s the “he-could-be-single”. “Just because he has a ring on his left finger, doesn’t mean he’s married.” Right, maybe he’s just trying to ward off all the crazy women. “What about the picture of the woman in his office?” I ask. I am told, “Well it could be his sister.” A bit exasperated, I say, “But, I saw him kissing that woman in the picture on the street yesterday.” The response, “That doesn’t mean he’s seriously dating her. What’s wrong with you, Ellie?” What’s wrong with me is that people think that a guy who smooches some random girl in public is good enough for me.
Or my personal favorite, the constant assertion that “You might meet someone…on vacation, in the elevator, in church….” it makes me crazy, constantly looking around at every guy, wondering, “Are you it?” This is the point when neurosis begins to sink in. I believe there may be medicine available for that.
I just read an article about the cultural belief that “the One” is out there, just waiting for me. Apparently, Canadians believe in true love. Sounds awfully romantic, but not realistic. I am of the mindset that each of us could match up quite well with different people.
After being rejected time and time again, I have begun to wonder about this ‘matching’ thing. I am Christian, and in some ways lean toward being quite conservative, but in other ways am quite liberal.
I feel like there are a lot of Christian guys, who are conservative and serious! No fun at all, and certainly not looking for a girl like me. Dull people want dull people. I am not saying this to insult or offend, I just mean if you’re a serious person, you probably lean more toward choosing someone who is likewise serious. It’s just you bore me to tears.
They say “opposites attract”, but do they really? I find it interesting that when you meet one-half of a couple, the science-math-minded one, you can almost bet money that the other-half is artistic. However, I am beginning to wonder if this is a rarity. I think I know more people who are “alike” than not.
Again, serious people generally tend to choose serious people.
Part of me thinks you’d be better off choosing someone fun like me, but then the other part of me, thinks, “Ugh, I’d have to put up with you! And, you’re dull!”
So, thank you, thank you, thank you boys, for not choosing me, and bringing me down wondering how to lighten you up!!
Life on the fun-side is fantastic!! The sad thing is, you don’t even know what you’re missing.