Much to your relief, I have given up on Shakespeare. I have learned a few valuable lessons from the last two blog posts. One, don’t rely on my own memory, and two, Shakespeare was a terrible historian.
Now, I’m going to pick on fashion magazines. Just ‘cos.
Our culture has a sexually transmitted disease. It’s highly contagious. However, the good news is that the only thing it will make you scratch is your head.
I have to eat, which means I have to go to the grocery store. While standing in line waiting to pay, I see magazines. And, on the covers of these magazines is usually a scantily clad white woman.
But, the key here is the words on the covers of these magazines. Articles entitled with things like, “Knock his socks off in bed”, “What men really want in bed” and the like.
Now, I have been reading the covers of these magazines for a long time, for at least a period of twenty years. (Yes, I’m that old.) The covers have been the same for at least this time period if not more.
So, I gotta ask the obvious question (which I’m pretty confident I am not the first one to ask) – Shouldn’t we be having the best sex ever by now? How much more advice could we possibly need for the bedroom?
My first thought is that the scantily-clad White woman, air-brushed to perfection, probably doesn’t help women’s self-esteem any. Aha! I may have found the answer. The industry keeps us hating our bodies and feeling like we’re no good in bed, so we have to keep buying their magazines for their wonderful advice.
Now, I am going to confess to you that I can’t remember ever reading one of their articles on this ‘great sex’ they promise.
I will also confess that I am Christian. (This confession will not be a surprise to anyone by now.)
Given my assertion that I like modesty, you should know that my opinion will most likely be pretty conservative minded.
BUT REALLY PEOPLE!!! Sexuality is around us EVERYWHERE! And, for some reason we are sexually deprived.
All of this negative sexuality gets on my nerves. Music videos are not real. Movies are not real. Could the older women in the Christian community or in whatever community you find yourself please, please, please help the younger ones? They are in desperate need of your advice and wise counsel!
I once had a gathering of a few women over to talk about sexuality. It was such a fantastic talk. An older married lady came over and she just said it. She was honest, funny, wise and wonderful. I was so thankful for her presence, for opening up and allowing the younger women to ask her questions. It was a great, safe space to talk openly without fear of being judged.
We need more of these small groups of women gathered, and men too. I get concerned over these young Christian women, who do not have a safe place to speak openly. It’s important to be able to cut through all of the cultural lies and myths about sex.
If you are Christian, I would encourage you to go to your pastor and initiate these kinds of conversations and groups. Or, just sent an email invite to a few female friends like my friend did – get some wine, some chocolate, and let the conversation begin! And, don’t forget to include some of the older women in your church…. I can promise you your evening will not be dull!
Question: Why do you think our culture is so sex-obsessed and yet so sexually deprived?
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